There’s no denying that becoming a father turns your life upside down. Obviously, we believe there is nothing more rewarding but at the same time it’s only recently that it’s been recognised how challenging becoming a dad is.
Especially on mental health.
It’s thought that 1 in 10 new dads have depression and around the time a man becomes a father he is considered 47 times more likely to commit suicide.
It affects tens of thousands of dads.
And we see it spoken about in the Dadsnet countless times each week. Obviously, it’s a wonderful thing that Dadsnet is considered a safe place for dads to share their darkest and most vulnerable feelings but then what?
If you’ve landed on this page it’s because you’re looking for mental health resources and guidance on what to say and what to do.
Well, we’re not experts by any stretch of the imagination and we certainly aren’t an organisation able to give out medical or professional advice. So we don’t. But we have teamed up with Movember, who most certainly are, to give you some top tips and resources on what to do and what say when the subject of mental health comes up.
What to say?
Encourage the following:
- Stay connected
Friends & family are important and spending time with them is good for you. Catch up regularly, check in and make time.
- Talk more
You don’t need to be an expert and you don’t have to be the sole solution, but being there for someone, listening and giving your time can be life-saving.
- Move more
Add more activity to your day. Do more of what makes you feel good.
– Take a walking meeting
– Park further away from the station
– Get off the bus a stop or two earlier
– Instead of the lift, take the stairs
– Cycle to work instead of driving
Knowing what to say can be difficult because when we care about people we want to fix things for them. But here at Dadsnet, we recommend that you never give any advice beyond our suggestions below.
So whilst you can’t give much advice, one thing we do recommend is to simply listen. Say to them that you’re more than happy to hear their story, what they’ve got going on, how their feeling and where you can, empathise and share any of your own experiences back to them.
What to recommend?
Here’s our step by step advice guide
Suggest going to a GP
Suggest getting in touch with one of our chosen mental health charities for more expert advice, articles and support.
Suggest opening up in the main Dadsnet group. It’s more than likely that there will be someone else going through the same thing and willing to chat.
Who to contact?
Here’s a list of phone numbers to have to hand and to share with whoever you’re talking to.
Suicide is often talked about in the Dadsnet and when someone is talking about how they just can’t carry on living, it’s very difficult to know what to say. Movember have given us the following guidelines to pass on to you, so you’re better equipped to know how to deal with the varying situations you may face.