Having arrived back in Australia after another big flight with the kids I thought I’d use my jet lag productively to give a few tips and tricks that have worked for us to get ourselves and our kids through the experience. I do call myself The Dadventurer afterall!
We fly regularly and go long haul once a year – usually back to the UK to keep our kids and their families on playful terms. This year we have arrived in England after a flight from Darwin to Singapore (5 hours), a short layover in Changi Airport (6 hours) and a flight from Singapore to Manchester (14 hours). The kids were amazing but some careful planning helped us all get the most out of the trip.
1. Link the worst bits to the kids’ bedtime
2. Use a good airline
We always fly with Singapore Airlines when we can, they’re just so good. They don’t mess you around, they look after families well and their staff are consistently ready to help and look after you all. We’ve also had decent experience with some cheaper airlines. We’ve had some pretty crap experiences on other big airlines that have left us struggling with the kids and it is not worth it. There are heaps of reviews online so check out the rep of the airline (specifically how good they are for travelling families!) before you book and spend a little extra if you need to and can afford to, to make sure you will enjoy the experience. A crap flight is an awkward way to start your family adventure!
3. Don’t stress about the people around you
Now that I’m a father I have convinced myself that I was previously a patient and compassionate co-passenger and would sympathise rather than curse the parents around me, that’s probably bullshit. The truth is that flying is pretty shitty and stressful for most people, and an endless clock-watching exercise. The trick for the travelling parent is to do all you can to manage your adventurers for everyone and then don’t stress beyond that. There will be times that the kids are difficult and noisy, most people will be cool, some won’t. If you let that stress you out it’ll be a difficult few hours. Engage with all the nice folks who look interested in the kids and you’ll feel better about how many people you’ve woken up.
4. Pack smart and pack fun
OK you’re not a moron, we’re not talking “remember to pack nappies” here or “don’t home-alone your young adventurers”. I will remind you to make sure everything is accessible and easy to get to – especially those nappies! And to take a Baby Bjorn (other baby carrier brands are available!) so your arms are free while you do your wing walks (or aisle walks, depends on your Dadventure level!) We (and by we I very much mean my wife – the key to our family’s organised travel!) pack Isla a goodie bag of stickers, colouring, jigsaws, cuddly toys, earphones etc and let Isla open it on the first flight or at an airport (where you desire a few hours of wake up time). I’ll do a further post on our “Dadventurer travel goodie bag” if you’re interested in which bits and bobs worked best to engage/relax/knock out our beloved little travel clan!
5. Sacrifice yourself (do whatever works)
Do not plan to enjoy a couple of Singapore Slings while watching a movie, you probably won’t even have time to enjoy your horrific aircraft breakfast in peace. Suck it up dad – you need to give it away in favour of keeping the kids and family happy and relaxed. Expect A LOT of walking up and down aeroplane aisles singing in your kid’s ears, a lot of getting in the cabin crew’s way, a lot of retrieving food and drink from the overhead luggage and the kitchen (or whatever that bit they keep all the food is called on a plane?!). Accept this and enjoy… Point 6, handily kept just below, might help here.
6. Be the ultimate fun Dadventurer
This is a good opportunity to give in to a few things you normally wouldn’t… Slacken off a few rules and let the kids get away with a bit more than usual in the interest of a decent flight. They can eat or drink when they want and get stuck into an iPad or whatever it is that you usually wouldn’t let them near! Give yourselves the chance to enjoy it when they get restless/bored. Flying is an amazing, exciting thing for the kids so try to get them into it and build that excitement. Be active, be fun and enjoy dadding at 10000 feet! In the airports work out everything fun that exists and do each one to death – as long as you can! Keep them up and awake and active so they’ll sleep on the flight!
I hope these tips work for you as well as they did for us. Hell – I hope they work for us again when we fly back next year – fingers crossed!
Happy family adventures!!