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Amandatruck
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Whilst you may feel rather put out by your experience recently, I would like to add a few points that may help you feel differently. I’ve worked clinically as a Midwife for 27 years now. Sadly and worrying I’ve never witnessed maternity services to be so stretched or under pressure. We are facing unprecedented staff shortages owing to years of chronic underfunding. Our lovely European colleagues are leaving in droves due to the current toxic environment in the UK. Student numbers are down due to exorbitant training costs. And our older colleagues are retiring early due to massive pressures. Coupled with programmes such as One Born Every Minute that promote unfeasibly fluffy ideas of what birth is like – well the maternity services are under fire from every direction. On my first night shift of the week I had to deal with a drunk husband (on a Monday too! Who gets drunk on a Monday?) who was most unhelpfully passing insulting remarks about my colleagues sitting on their arses. My colleagues were actually dealing with three stillbirths and the mountains of paperwork that goes with them. He also helpfully commented repeatedly on what a cushy job being a midwife was. Fortunately he didn’t have to witness what sort of work we have to do when a woman has a major obstetric hemorrhage or somesuch light weight event. I plied him with plenty of coffee to try to sober him up as his partner for various reasons desperately needed him there when I could have called security and had him thrown out. I was already busy enough without having to run about after a drunk. With already pressured services I would suggest you you perhaps see that there are other things happening on busy units other than to be looking after you and your needs. Namely the safety of your partner and baby and other women and if you are mature enough to be bringing a child into the world then you should be mature enough to get your own refreshments and organise your own support network.