I totally agree with you, my ex partner is still very bitter dispute us splitting up 3 years ago. My daughter shouldn’t feel split which is why the court order is in place. This is a sad situation and i do wish we could sit down and have a civil conversation but that wouldn’t happen as all she cares about is “getting one over on me” and wants what she wants not what was agreed too and a court order being in place.
My daughter is extremely loving and is a wonderful little girl and should not not feel torn or see or hear any disputes. Because of this i have to record any hand overs with her mother to prevent her saying anything which may upset my daughter which seems to work as would only go against her if she was to carry on with such behaviour.