[Stewart Simpson]

Hi everyone. We are getting divorced, unfortunately. None of us have beem happy for a while. I was willing to work on it but her mimd is made up. I’m still living in the family home at the moment as her family are going to buy me out of the equity. Bit of a back story, her family paid for the deposit & legal fees at the time. The solicitor also drew up a trust deed to say the split of equity on the house would be 65/35 her. I didn’t sign it. Since I’ve lived with her, I’ve contributed financially to the mortgage and all bills. She’s not despite working part time.
I’ve offered a 50/50 split of the equity, and for her to keep all the stuff in the house. However she thinks she is entitled to 65/35 & all the stuff in the house! Anyone else been in a similar situation? We are sitting down to discuss best way forward for this and joint custody for our 5 year old boy on Thursday evening. I’ve seen things where she is suggesting because I work full time and go running 3 times a week that our boy wouldn’t get the right care and attention from being ewith me 50% of the time. Although she has the backing of a wealthy family. She has no money herself and is currently not working. I feel she is just trying to see how much child benefit she can push for rather than come up with a proper plan that works for us both.

[Robyn Jarvis]

Hello there
Sorry to hear that. I hope things work out in your favor in the end.

[Luke Wagstaffe]

Hey Stewart!
Sorry to hear what you’re going through mate, I’m 27 and going through exactly the same thing although she is still living in the property, not me. I’ve had to go through court and I’ve suggested a clean break being 50/50 as that’s what we bought it as. The ex is now telling the court that she wants the whole house transferred to her name and is basically trying to take everything she possibly can from me. Due to us not agreeing I had to go down the court route but I’m not sure how that’ll go due to courts often favouring the woman. I’ve been to court already for childcare arrangements and have 50/50 custody which goes in my favour in the sense I need to put a roof over my daughters head and with her keeping the property I’m unable to do that!

In your situation I’m not sure if you’ve considered court and putting your argument across to them maybe, but it is risky and was a last resort for me if I’m honest.
It gets me down how everyone favours the woman, it’s 2022 and men don’t have a leg to stand on it seems grossly unfair!

[Kevin Morrow]

Sounds like you’re going through some tough times, keep your head up.

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