- 20/04/2019 at 5:21 pm #25475JamesParticipant
I was in such a rush to really jump in and provide my perspective on a couple of topics that I didn’t bother to introduce myself so…
I’ve been with my amazing partner for over 15 years. I’m a father of 2, my son is 10 and my daughter is 4, both amazing additions to our lives.
Seems like many of the recent topics are concerning men who have become fathers without their express consent, so I’m here to spread the word to younger men that there are plenty of good women out there who won’t trick you into becoming a father before you want to be. It’s always good to protect yourself in any way you can, the pill is not a reliable/verifiable form of birth control, condoms break, and vasectomies aren’t worth giving up the sheer joy of becoming a father just for a few minutes of bare pleasure. Work on becoming the best you that you can, she’s out there becoming the best version of herself for you ;)
There is nothing in this world that can compare to being a dad with the right mom, but the wrong one can make life a living hell… choose wisely.
- 20/04/2019 at 5:30 pm #25479Al FergusonKeymaster
Wise words! I have to be careful what I say but I can certainly empathise with Jose who have been in the kind of situation you describe.
15 years! Good going mate :) I’m 6 years in ?? Haha!
- 20/04/2019 at 5:59 pm #25487JamesParticipant
Thanks man. Hey I’m not perfect just lucky. I’ve been there, been with the girls who will say they can’t get pregnant due to this or that medical thing, or claim to be on the pill but routinely forget to take it, I’ve had some close calls but luckily found the woman of my dreams on the other side, without dragging child support payments along with me.
I remember what it was like to be young and horny, it irks me and my wife when young men are told just to not have sex or wear a condom, when young women have so much more control over whether or not they get pregnant, it’s quite a double standard. There are so many other options for birth control than just abstinence or condoms though, many of which can be combined to be nearly 100% effective: https://www.birthcontrol.com/options/ It starts with finding a woman who also takes birth control seriously, and understands why men would be wary of trusting her to take a pill every day, not to mention the side effects of hormonal birth control.
Anyways, thanks for the welcome, and no worries you don’t have to agree/disagree with anything, I say enough controversial things for 2 people ;)
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