- 29/04/2022 at 9:03 pm #208731Kris RenshawParticipant
Hi, I’m a dad of a 2 1/2 year old boy who is all me. I don’t mean to sound arrogant with that, but he’s all about me – to the point that I can see it’s clearly upsetting my wife. He doesn’t give her as much affection as me, I’ve got to put him to bed, I’ve got to put his shoes on, he doesn’t scream when i do nappy changes or bath time…
I think I know what causes it; my wife is obsessed with her phone. There have been countless times that me and my son have been playing on the floor, he’s done something new or said a new word, I’ve looked up to share that wow moment with her and she’s buried in her phone. I’ve sat by and seen that he’s been trying to talk to her, ask a question or.something, but she’s too enthralled with her phone to notice until I say something.
Surely this has an impact on why my son is all me? I don’t claim to be perfect in any way, but I’m barely on my phone when he’s around, it’s a rule for me that I don’t go on my xbox when he’s around.
I’ve mentioned it to her before, that this is a reason I suspect she has difficulties with him, but it never seems to go anywhere. She might, for that afternoon, get on the floor.and play with him more or interact with him, but it’s not long before she’s back on the sofa scrolling through social media apparently oblivious to our existence. It extends to checking her phone being the first thing she does in a morning, and the last ring before bed.
It’s driving me insane that it’s so obvious to me.
What are opinions? Am I thinking right about it being a reason he acts up for her and doesn’t give her as much affection? How do I get her to listen once and for all without throwing her phone out the car window?
Any thoughts or advice would be very welcome.
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