- 09/11/2018 at 9:16 pm #19943
So I work long hours and by the time I get home I’ve done a 13 hour day. We have a daughter aged 22 from another marriage who stays with her dad now and again but lives with us most days of the week. My wife has a stressful job and with everything going on we barley get time to ourselves. She will not have sex when our daughter is in the house as she gets embarrassed so it’s tough on us both. I can home the other night to find my wife dressed in sexy night wear and really made the effort but I was so tired nothing happened.
I felt so bad she had put so much effort in and I could not perform. She said is it her which it’s not but me not performing in the bedroom is putting stress on me and making her feel unwanted…any advice please.
- 20/11/2018 at 10:04 pm #20107
You spell it libido. This happens to everyone at some time. And from time to time. Try to reduce stress as thats the main libido destroyer. Find time to relax and chill together outside of the bedroom and away from the interference of others doing things you both enjoy. Talk to each other and try to agree a mutual time at least once per week when youll put time aside for sex. When the 22 year old is at your house then I agree it might be awkward but they arent around all the time surely? When she goes out – get to it! You need to make the effort for your wife like she did for you. Which may sometimes involve trying new things and making love when maybe she wants it more than you do. And vice versa. Thats called putting your partners wishes before your own and it will win you brownie points in her book.
Finally your testosterone levels may be low. Get checked by your GP. If these are fine then you can still boost your sex drive naturally. Regular exercise. Good restful sleep. Zinc supplements and bananas all help. Sex is an important part of a relationship between the two of you and shoyld not be neglected or it may cause issues generally in your life together. Good luck. Let us know how you get on. Hope Ive helped