[Alan]

hi all, I’m new to the site and couldn’t find the answer anywhere else,

I’m newly separated (10 months) and the mother is the resident parent of our 2 kid (nothing through the courts).

Recently shes been complaining about childcare issues and told me that I need to do more or she’ll stop me seeing them all together….

I have them 3 nights a week at the moment and work shifts thr other 4so am restricted to what I can/can’t do.

Shes saying that I should take unpaid shifts off work to have the kids on days she has work? Is this a normal request?

I’d assumed that as she wanted and took on the resident parent title (and the benefits/maintenance payments that go with it) that then the day to day childcare was her issue? And as long as I have my kids my 3 nights a week (obviously the days in between) then I’m doing my side of the bargain

Am I being unreasonable?

Basically I was looking to know eat the ‘legal line is on responsibilities of the resident parent

Cheers all

[Nathan]

Hi Alan. Personally I`d say this is co parenting where you have equal responsibilities for your children. If you were to take unpaid time off work you are then putting yourself in the position where you may not be able to financially provide for your children. I do believe you and the mother of your children may be able to claim help with tax credits for childcare.

Your not being unreasonable

[Alan]

Thats the issue. Only 1 parent can claim and thats her as the resident parent

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