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  • #14068


    What do you wish you’d known before your child born that you can share with expectant dads?

    For me it’s that routine is largely rubbish.

    Feed a hungry baby
    Cuddle a crying one
    Let a tired one sleep


    NEVER WAKE a sleeping baby because someone says it’s time to feed

  • #14070


    I agree with the above and would add
    Poo gets everywhere. Deal with it.

    There is no one size fits all for nappies. Cloth may suit some and disposable others. Every brand fits a little differently and every child is a different shape.

    You will quickly get used to the smell and sight of your little darlings poo and the first poonami is quite a sight especially if you are not at home. Bring plenty of wet wipes and changes of clothes you will never have enough.

    • #14155

      Hell yes…never wake them. It takes you too long to get them over. If they are hungry they will wake up.

  • #14075

    Not to go all too serious but one of the things I genuinely wasn’t anticipating was the absolute emotional rollercoaster. I naively thought I’d probably spend the entire 9 months in a bubble of positive feelings, why wouldn’t I? I have a baby on the way after all.
    In reality, after the excitement of finding out, announcing the news, having a gender reveal, all those things in the early months. I started to feel really low and unmotivated. Our little ones arrival seemed so far away and there wasn’t really anything I could do besides try and support our surrogate. It was just a very unusual place to be, emotionally.
    So yeah, I wish I’d have known that my emotions would be all over the place long before the baby arrives…

  • #14287

    Al Ferguson

    You should write your own book, Huw. They would be the only 3 pages you’d need, mind you!

  • #14326

    James Child

    I wish I’d known that health visitors can be alarmist and out of touch. It would have saved me 5 hours at a&e only to be told by a lovely nurse that the reason my baby had a sore throat was because he had been crying!

    • #17679


      I never got on that well with our health visitor, she seemed out of touch and didnt offer too much knowledge. We seemed to be offering possible solutions and diagnoses to be met with “yeah… that’s probably it. I wouldn’t worry about it”

  • #17756

    David Hendy

    Sleep is glorious and you should really get a lot in before baby is born. 2.5 years later and I’ve just written it all off!

    • #20124


      Still haven’t cracked how to “BANK” your sleep. Always felt smarmy when people told me to get as much as I could haha!

  • #19143

    Dominic Hayhoe

    Everyone always says “Your life will change forever”, I just don’t think you realise how true that is!

  • #20485


    Say goodbye to lie ins. I have replaced them with early nights.

    • #34531


      Say goodbye to lie ins. I have replaced them with early nights.

      Very true, my mornings start at 5am everyday now, hoping the baby wont wake till 5.30 so I can get things done.

      Something my wife and I wish we knew, breastfeeding doesnt just happen. It’s quite a low percentage of women who can do it successfully without problems. My daughter has been fully bottle fed since about 1 month old when we just realised it wasnt working.

  • #29972


    The future instincts.

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