Things you wish you’d known..


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    • #14068

      What do you wish you’d known before your child born that you can share with expectant dads?

      For me it’s that routine is largely rubbish.

      Feed a hungry baby
      Cuddle a crying one
      Let a tired one sleep


      NEVER WAKE a sleeping baby because someone says it’s time to feed

    • #14070

      I agree with the above and would add
      Poo gets everywhere. Deal with it.

      There is no one size fits all for nappies. Cloth may suit some and disposable others. Every brand fits a little differently and every child is a different shape.

      You will quickly get used to the smell and sight of your little darlings poo and the first poonami is quite a sight especially if you are not at home. Bring plenty of wet wipes and changes of clothes you will never have enough.

      • #14155

        Hell yes…never wake them. It takes you too long to get them over. If they are hungry they will wake up.

    • #14075
      Mark Evans-Leigh

      Not to go all too serious but one of the things I genuinely wasn’t anticipating was the absolute emotional rollercoaster. I naively thought I’d probably spend the entire 9 months in a bubble of positive feelings, why wouldn’t I? I have a baby on the way after all.
      In reality, after the excitement of finding out, announcing the news, having a gender reveal, all those things in the early months. I started to feel really low and unmotivated. Our little ones arrival seemed so far away and there wasn’t really anything I could do besides try and support our surrogate. It was just a very unusual place to be, emotionally.
      So yeah, I wish I’d have known that my emotions would be all over the place long before the baby arrives…

    • #14287
      Al Ferguson

      You should write your own book, Huw. They would be the only 3 pages you’d need, mind you!

    • #14326
      James Child

      I wish I’d known that health visitors can be alarmist and out of touch. It would have saved me 5 hours at a&e only to be told by a lovely nurse that the reason my baby had a sore throat was because he had been crying!

      • #17679

        I never got on that well with our health visitor, she seemed out of touch and didnt offer too much knowledge. We seemed to be offering possible solutions and diagnoses to be met with “yeah… that’s probably it. I wouldn’t worry about it”

    • #17756
      David Hendy

      Sleep is glorious and you should really get a lot in before baby is born. 2.5 years later and I’ve just written it all off!

      • #20124

        Still haven’t cracked how to “BANK” your sleep. Always felt smarmy when people told me to get as much as I could haha!

    • #19143

      Everyone always says “Your life will change forever”, I just don’t think you realise how true that is!

    • #20485

      Say goodbye to lie ins. I have replaced them with early nights.

      • #34531

        Say goodbye to lie ins. I have replaced them with early nights.

        Very true, my mornings start at 5am everyday now, hoping the baby wont wake till 5.30 so I can get things done.

        Something my wife and I wish we knew, breastfeeding doesnt just happen. It’s quite a low percentage of women who can do it successfully without problems. My daughter has been fully bottle fed since about 1 month old when we just realised it wasnt working.

    • #29972

      The future instincts.

    • #105913

      Above all, do not lose your desire to walk. Everyday, I walk myself into a state of well-being & walk away from every illness. I have walked myself into my best thoughts, and I know of no thought so burdensome that one cannot walk away from it. But by sitting still, & the more one sits still, the closer one comes to feeling ill. Thus if one just keeps on walking, everything will be all right

    • #108837

      The things I wish I knew before were Theres no instruction manual!!!
      Whilst the mrs was on mumsnet and other mummy websites wanting to buy this that and everything else for our kids you dont need to compete or to buy things you ‘think’ are essential because everyone has the latest gadgets… basic essentials, think about longevity of items. We had 3 prams at one point. Each different but just stupid because you have zero room left. Dont be shy of hand me down stuff either from friends and family. Dont get me wrong you wouldnt accept anything falling to pieces or grubby but do take time to see what’s on offer it could save you a fortune in the long run. Yea most of your gear you’ll need to buy brand new but dont be to snobby to say no to a free car seat even if it puts you on till you get a new one. Yes you’ll need to be new ones as they grow..

      Good luck!

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