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Is it in my children’s best interest
After 5 years of living in financial hardship caused by an unfair cms equation. Endless invasive treatment by CMS at my ex’s behest and consequences like temporary homelessness due to cash flow … I have lost one cms investigation driven by my Ex by in this time but I’ll cover that but later…
She forever attempts to punish me and put me on collect and pay at 20% on top… as she knows that I can’t get back up from that
To be clear I have paid everything they have said including fabricated arrears when I proven unemployed for 3 months but that didn’t mean less than total change or anything so I was forced under threat to pay…
I only have a new fabricated “arrears” outstanding, mentioned earlier, of £600 despite paying over £30k to her over 5 years … this relates to a travel entitlement my court order guarantees beyond factual hotel stays and having them 96 nights a years but she argued that because I couldn’t do Wednesday dinners anymore I should not only lose the entitlement but have it turned to arrears (the banding is a cliffs edge not steps, and she will never allow a reduction in her % money, I asked her for one more week with them and pay fairly.. no)…
She lives at her parents where my children share one room…
I have a 3 bed house with mortgage just to ensure I have a provision for when they are with me and build inheritance…
I have a very expensive court order just to be able to see my children as CMS and money, beyond vindictive harassment and punishment, was the outset, using very powerful and life changing services… 20% on top is no joke to anyone… I pay excessively out of sheer fear and terror of the next false claim she’ll use to get CMS to unjustly invasively scrutinise me further…
Not meant maliciously, if she died, who would be expected to look after the kids? If I lose my home due to uncapped entitlement.. where would I have them…
When does screwing over entirely for life a non resident parent to allow RPs to leverage all this power… it’s exhausting, depressing and very stressful…
If I work harder, due to tax, I’m after CMS left by the looks with less… i can’t work harder to climb out of CMS poverty as the hole just gets deeper…
I had to re agree my court order at much pain to give up time with them as 96 nights and paying 52 with new debts and no travel discount means I can’t afford to have them… cms is literally financially pricing me out of looking after my own kids.. under real threats
The more I love my kids the more power she and CMS holds over me…
If I wanted to be deadbeat there is nothing stopping me leaving REMO…
Is it in their best interest that I must crumble, lose their UK inheritance and provision so my (from my perspective) abusive ex can carry on abusing me and prosper at her parents house… she has a very nice new car… I can’t save, I can just about tread water and it’s entirely as CMS calculations don’t take into account both parents incomes nor looks to find balance in real world costs and what’s best for the kids …Is this anyone else’s journey? Is this at all in my childrens long term best interests?
This last attempt to get me on to collect and pay over…
£90 difference
She’s had over £30k of any of my ability to save…
I’ve kinda come to terms that my ex hid huge debts behind pregnancy and turned my kids into money… I can’t take the constant fear of CMS and associated services… I’ve don’t nothing wrong but that doesn’t stop two investigations, threats for money I don’t owe, like it or punishment… if she succeeds and got, this is the 3rd attempt at collect and pay.. to win that… it’s forever me paying on top more that I can’t afford now
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