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Patience…lots of it…it’s not a quick fix or an easy road and can be really trying on both of you.
You also have to be prepared to just listen and hear them. They’re not necessarily looking for someone to provide a solution, but just someone that they can talk to and be heard by so they can just relieve some of the pressure and know that they’re not going through this on their own. Once they’ve done that, then you can start looking at how you can take each issue in turn and see what can be done to address any of them.
Sometimes you could find that it’s a traumatic event from their past that has been re-triggered by a present event, sometimes there might just be no reason for it.
Depression and anxiety I don’t think ever truly go away, you just learn and try to help your partner learn how to cope with the darker days and always try to aim for less of them – whether this is with the help of medication, therapy, combination or whatever works for the person or for both of you in some cases.
Finally, and possibly most importantly…don’t forget yourself. You are only going to be able to help your partner if you look after yourself as well. It can be very hard not to fall into depression yourself. And just remember, you might also need to talk to someone too, don’t leave it until it’s too late.
Hi, I’m Graham
I’m 38 and dad to Ari, 2 and soon to be dad to a new arrival due sometime between mid-September and mid-October. Living in North London/Hertfordshire borders.
EDIT: Now a dad to two – a 2 (ish) year old boy and a one month old baby girl :)
Ironically, most supermarket own brand sun cream is the highest rated – and also the cheapest…
Agree with Huw on Aldi, but you can get some good ones from Sainsburys, ASDA and probably the rest of them too. I know for sure that ASDA’s own brand and Sainsburys is 5-star rated for UVA – ideally you’re looking for 5-star UVA and factor 50+ to provide the highest level of UVB protection. With both combined, that offers the maximum amount of protection from both harmful elements.
The indicator is on the back of the bottles – and goes to a maximum of 5 stars – interestingly, some of the main and more expensive brands – Nivea, Ambre Solaire etc. are only 3-4 star rated.
You can also get sensitive or moisturising versions depending on preference.
