I think a lot of Dad’s struggle in the early years, I know I did, it can be very tough at times.
I can tell you it will get better though as your boys get older.
I think you sound like a decent guy who’s trying to do his best, so just know that there are better times around the corner.
The best reason why newly divorced parents should not handover young children is so the child doesn’t feel conflicted.
Children love each parent unconditionally, they don’t get a choice so ensuring there is no physical handover at first means the child doesn’t feel torn between you.
Perhaps relaying this message to your ex she will understand…[Read more]
Sounds like you’re very hard on yourself. Young children can be very hard work and very demanding. It will get easier as she gets older and you can negotiate and discuss things more with her.
Try to keep in mind that you’re doing the very best you can for your daughter, so when she has a tantrum you can remain calm.
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Dominic Hayhoe replied to the topic We've been asked to contribute £30 towards our class teachers EOY present!!! in the forum Education 5 months, 3 weeks ago
Sounds a lot to me, how many children are in the class?
I think it can feel like this, although obviously the mother is the most important person of course.
NHS staff are also seriously undermanned and over worked most of the time, so I always tried to stay out of their way!
Dominic Hayhoe started the topic Things They Didn’t Warn You About Before Becoming A Dad in the forum The DadsNet Forum 8 months, 3 weeks ago
What’s your biggest surprise after becoming a Dad?
The green first nappies or squirting poo when you’re changing them or something else?
Let’s have all your horror stories!
It sounds like you both really need outside help to find out what you both really feel.
Some kind of counselling, be it marriage guidance or another type can really help you both offer your true feelings in an unbiased environment.
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Dominic Hayhoe replied to the topic Wife has admitted to cheating and want to leave anyway in the forum The DadsNet Forum 9 months ago
I think you’ve been very honest.
What are you worried about exactly?
Try to settle things amicably, but if you do have to go through the CSA (or whatever it’s called these days) just prove your salary with your payslips. They can’t take what you don;t have.
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The amount of empathy anyone requires is entirely bespoke.
From your post, it sounds like what you need is to open really good communication channels with your Fiance.
Have you told her how you feel, really? Have you sat down with her and told her how it affects you?
It sounds like it’s him you should be talking to.
Why did being drunk make you call it off?
Impossible to say remotely what your OH will think, but not talking to him about it will certainly not help.
I was in a similar situation, you feel torn and guilty when you shouldn’t.
I always believe in these situations continued communication is the key.
That’s communication with your partner, with your work and yes I believe some sort of counselling is a huge help, whether that’s with both of you together or separately.
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