How to provide babyloss support to friends and family
Stillbirth and miscarriage are more common than you would think given the press coverage. Here’s how to offer babyloss support to loved ones.
Miscarriage | “I Feel Faulty”
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I just wanted to send my love and say that I hope writing this down and expressing it helped in some way, sharing such awful feelings is both so hard and so important for our healing to begin! I know the feeling of “my body is faulty” so very well, it seems to have failed (or messed up) pretty much everything the female body is supposed to be able to do naturally, and that can cause so much self-doubt and anguish, so please, please keep sharing your thoughts and how you feel, in whatever way works best for you, because it what you are going through and what you have experienced is so huge and has so many layers and nobody should have to face that alone with their own thoughts xx
Thank you Amanda. I am so sorry that your body is letting you down too. It’s such a hard thing to experience. Thank you for sharing your feelings and taking the time to leave your thoughts and kind words.
Hello, my partner and I have suffered 2 miscarriages over the last 2 years and I started to put my thoughts down as well. I agree it’s a good place to get out the thoughts in your head.
Since starting it, people have pointed me in the direction of other people who have suffered similar experiences. I thought I was a man suffering in silence. Thanks for helping me realise I’m not alone.
Not sure if I’m allowed to post my blog on here but it’s called finenotfine. Thats how I feel most days
http:// finenotfine.wordpress.com/2016/05/24/joseph-not-jospeh/
Thank you David I will take a look. Are you part of TheDadsNet FB group? http://www.thedadsnet.com/networks
Its a great group to discuss anything like this as its so supportive.
I am very sorry for your losses :(
Oh, all these feelings sound so heart-breakingly familiar. I always think it is so cruel that your body still thinks it is pregnant when that is no longer true. I can understand why you feel that your body is faulty. I cursed my body for so long. Then I realised that it was suffering too. I really hope that you are able to see someone who can give you some answers. And as I have said, I am always here if you want to chat. Hugs Lucy xxxx
when miscarriage occurred both partners feel empty and disconnect from the rest.It is a bad occurrence.
What a very open and honest post. I felt very much the same with my two miscarriages. I found talking to complete strangers that were going through the same pain really helped. That was over 3 years ago, the strangers are now my friends, and we talk online pretty much every day.
I went through this too, and it’s a terrible time. So sorry for your loss.
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I’m just reading through all your posts with tears in my eyes, I’m currently 9.5 weeks pregnant and found out last week that our identical twins had stopped growing shortly after our previous scan at 7 weeks (there were heartbeats to be seen at the scan :( ) anyway on Saturday I went in for the tables to force me to miscarry, nothing happened however the hospital say they may have missed the passing of the babies, so I now have 3 weeks wait to check with a pregnancy test. I know I’m still carrying the babies, my body knows and it’s absolutely agonising. I can’t imagine your pain at having to go through this 5 times, but it gives me strength to know you have coped and continued with life.
I pray you get your rainbow baby soon xxx
I hate mothers day. Not in the hate that every other mother is celebrating but that I feel forgotten. Each year is another year of people saying “happy mothers day… oh wait you don’t have kids” Every year is the same slap in the face and I want to scream ” Yes I am! You just can’t see my beautiful baby in heaven”
I miscarried at 7 and a half weeks, my body became a husk, a shell of it former self. My husband and I separated for 6 months neither of us able to deal with the loss. After the time we came back together and realized that life was sweeter together and have tried to get pregnant again. For five years we have tried. The doctors tell us that we will never carry to full term. My body just doesn’t work that way. In 9 months we are starting a journey to adopt.
I wish you all baby dust if that is your hope and I wish you strength and love if you chose a different path for a family.
Love Always