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You Can Go To The Pub With Friends But Not Antenatal Appointments With Your Partner

Parents are rightly upset with the lack of logic and consistency with UK government guidelines, especially when labour, scans and antenatal appointments are concerned

Recent changes in the UK’s government guidance around easing lockdown has seen pubs, restaurants and shops reopen. As many of us will have taken advantage of, they’ve even ploughed in millions of pounds with the Eat Out to Help Out scheme, to try and get people out and about after months of lockdown.

During the height of the pandemic, restrictions of dads and partners attending scans and antenatal appointments, as well as the time allowed into labour wards for partners were fairly valid. But they are now unnecessary and adversely affecting the health and well being of parents and their babies. Including dads from within Dadsnet!

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Parents across the nation are putting pressure on Prime Minister Boris Johnsons and Health Secretary Matt Hancock to address the issue without delay.

Right now the guidelines state that mothers do not have to labour alone but dads are only allowed to be with the mother when she is 4cm dilated or more.

They are not allowed in for the start of an induction. They are not allowed in for the pre operation preparation for a Caesarean section. 

They are not allowed to come onto the ward with mum and baby after birth, they must leave shortly after birth, irrelevant of mothers emotional, mental or physical needs. 

A social media campaign, predominately on Twitter has been picked up by thousands; a lot of whom are bombarding Hancock & Johnsons with messages asking for change.

#ButNotMaternity

I mean, it does seem ludicrous that you can shop in Ikea, or grab a cheeky Nando’s with friends or spend hours in a pub on a Friday night, but a dad can’t go to a scan with the mother of his child or worse, stay with his wife on a ward after a C-Section.

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Campaigners have also written an open letter to government officials to take action and started a strong petition with over 200,000 signatures already (which you should definitely sign now) calling for immediate lifting of these restrictions.

It reads: What is also so entirely frustrating is that these rules are NOT consistent around the country. Some hospitals allow partners for the whole birth, for scans and appointments and it’s just not right. 

With so many unnecessary and non essential shops opening up this week, with hairdressers, pubs and other social venues opening imminently, how on earth is it justifiable to keep partners from labour, appointments and births and to risk mental health issues such as post natal depression at the very least to both mum and partner.

What are your thoughts on it?

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2 Comments

  • It’s all down to the individual hospitals. The hospitals were given guidelines on distancing, especially within waiting areas. For most departments to be able to allow someone to accompany women for scans, they would either need a waiting room twice the size, or cut the capacity of the clinics dramatically. Some hospitals share waiting rooms with other clinics and departments, and as things start to reopen, there will be more patients attending.
    Just to add-I gave birth in July so had to go to the majority of my appointments and scans alone. I was admitted in labour at 3cm as my previous labour had been quick and they allowed my husband into the birthing suite with me at that point; baby boy was born 4.5 hours later. He was not allowed to stay or visit us on the ward. But to be honest, all the women in my bed bay seemed more relaxed with no men there, and nobody visiting other patients; they were walking around in their underwear comfortably, and felt more comfortable with breast feeding support with none around. I actually found it more relaxed than my previous birth but I know for some first time mothers this may not have been the same.

  • Do unfair for dads out there

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